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Why we are so hard on ourselves?
We search and inspect, looking for every flaw. We measure and count, grading and comparing that which is precious to God.
As if we are the judge and the jury. Truly, we are often kinder to others than to ourselves.
What if we learn to let go of the standards we have defined for ourselves? How freeing to stop trying to press ourselves into a mold, this false image or idol of someone who’s got it all together…
Too often we look at others and compare ourselves, falling into the pit of our if only’s:
Perfection disguised behind my if only’s.
- If only I were 25 pounds thinner…
- If only I my kids would behave…
- If only I my husband wasn’t deployed…
- If only I were more organized, more prepared, more thoughtful…
- If only I hadn’t said that or done this…
I’m not sure what’s on your list, but believe me, we’ve all got a list of what we think we should be, what we should have done, and we could go on and on until tomorrow has run out of minutes. And then run into the next day, right?
Going through the motions doesn’t please you,
a flawless performance is nothing to you.
I learned God-worship
when my pride was shattered. Psalm51:16-17 msg
Isn’t it time to find the strength to let go of insecurity?
- When we press the tally marks against our soul and the shame of our failures causes us to stumble…it’s time.
- When the hidden faults and secret sins fester and drag us down…its time.
- When we find ourselves going through the motions with God, hands busy but heart empty…it’s time.
- When we’ve swallowed rejection and believed the lies that echo in our hearts… it’s time.
IT’S TIME to let go of the expectations that wear away our souls. Time to stop hiding behind strengths and achievements of trying make ourselves who we think we should be.
A Secure Identity is a Firm Foundation for Your Best Life
These two girls in the pictures below look the same on the outside, don’t they? They’re both smiling and all seems right with the world. What’s the difference between the two photos?
“Everyone who comes to Me and hears My words and acts on them, I will show you whom he is like: he is like a man building a house, who dug deep and laid a foundation on the rock; and when a flood occurred, the torrent burst against that house and could not shake it, because it had been well built.
But the one who has heard and has not acted accordingly, is like a man who built a house on the ground without any foundation; and the torrent burst against it and immediately it collapsed, and the ruin of that house was great.”–Luke 6:47-49
A Secure Identity in Christ is God’s plan for a strong foundation that can withstand the storms of life and thrive. Firmness and strength of soul is ours when we believe God’s truth about who we are in Christ. Really believing and living the truth we are loved, forgiven, and accepted by God plants our feet on the rock-solid truth. (Click the links to read scripture verses.)
The Instability of Insecurity
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- We stress and strain to prove ourselves, believing the lie that accomplishment and success create value.
- Insecurity often comes when we push and prod to meet expectations, whether they come from others or from our own driven hearts. The heart of shame looks to the wrong source for worth, elevating the approval and expectation of others. Shame shouts that we have failed to meet their expectation–failed to be who we need to be in order to be ok.
- We’re on shaky ground when pain from failures and rejections causes us to forget who we are.
- We trip and fall over our sins and shortcomings. We make mistakes and do things that are wrong. We make selfish or unwise decisions and we pay the price in guilt. Guilt is the weight that erodes our identity when we don’t stand on the truth that we are forgiven.
- We think we should be better than this, be able to fix ourselves. We try so hard to make ourselves into the woman we think we should be, the ideal woman we want to be.
- We fall into the temptation and trap of trying to make ourselves into our own image. Made in God’s image, we must understand that identity is not an accomplishment but a gift.
- Identity that we define and try to create by performance, roles, abilities isn’t based on the truth of who God created us to be and will eventually lead us to disappointment and frustration.
Our true self—the self we are becoming in God—is something we receive from God.
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To often we base our identity on what we do, rather than who we are. Yes, it’s time to believe that in Christ we are enough and we can let go of insecurity.
Today’s post is from speaker and social media coordinator, Ginger Harrington. You can read other related articles on this topic in her Soul Strength series on her blog: GingerHarrington.com. [/fusion_builder_column][/fusion_builder_row][/fusion_builder_container]